No one holds the keys to our success except for our own hands. The responsibility of achievement is never on the shoulders of another person…
PAPA LARSON TALKS PERSONAL GROWTH AND BUSINESS GROWTH
Today I’m gonna teach you guys about the INTENT TO BECOME.
I know it’s a little bit of a heavy title there but I really wanna tell you know about this. If you’re are not aware, inside of Secret MLM Hacks Radio there’s a way to ask me questions. I go back and listen to a lot of your questions. Thank you, by the way.
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I’m not gonna say who this is from… But I get this question very frequently. I wanted to address it.
I have personally brought at least 4,000 people through this process now. Personally. This is a common question.
A lot of the people I bring in are brand new. They’ve never had any success online before. It is common for me to get this kind of question… And I just wanted to share this.
I’m not gonna show you the name and I’m not here to badmouth this individual.
I understand EXACTLY why I am behind the camera and why you’re watching. I understand WHO I AM and WHERE I AM. That’s because of…
- GOD – He helps fill in the gaps
- MY willingness and determination
THE MOST COMMON QUESTION ABOUT SUCCESS
“Hey, Steve. Is this actually guaranteed to work? I’m tired of chasing shiny objects. Thank you.”
WHAT? Are you kidding me? “Is this guaranteed to work? I’m tired of chasing shiny objects.”
FIRST OF ALL, chasing shiny objects is not my issue. That is yours.
And secondly, is it guaranteed to work?
There was a lady who was yelling at me on a page two weeks ago. WHY? Because I would not guarantee success for her inside the Secret MLM Hacks.
Would you guarantee success for someone inside of your MLM when they join it? You won’t?
WAIT… You will under what contingency? Oh, that they actually do the stuff and do the work?
THAT’S EXACTLY THE SAME WITH ME!
I just told her, “Absolutely not. I will not guarantee success for you in this.” And she said, “What are you talking about?” She asked me for the guaranteed ROI on joining the program.
I said, “We’ve had multiple people recruit several hundred people in a month with my program.We had one freak of nature recruit almost 1,000 people in a month.”
People are recruiting more than they’ve ever done and making money in MLM for the FIRST FREAKING TIME in their life!
WHAT’S THE GUARANTEED ROI?
“Stephen, what’s the guaranteed ROI?” What’s the guaranteed ROI of anything? It has everything to do with how much effort you put into it.
Someone else asked me the question, “How do I motivate my team?”
YOU HAVE THE WRONG TEAM! If you have to ask that question, you have the wrong team! You have the team who’s asking, “What’s the guaranteed ROI? Will you guarantee success for me?”
FREAKING NO. I don’t OWN your success. No one owns mine. No one OWES me a thing. And no one owes you anything.
It drives me nuts… Boils my blood, when people say things like, “Oh, I deserve this.”
NO! YOU DON’T! I don’t deserve ANYTHING in my life. And no one OWES me anything. I will work tooth and nail for it and I’m willing to do so.
My programs work when the people work. And when they work, they have success with it. Just like anything in life. ANYTHING IN LIFE.
I’M THE LEAST LIKELY SUCCESS STORY
I did not know how to talk. I’m not just saying that. I had almost a near clinical fear of adults. If I saw someone walking towards me down the hall, I would turn and walk the other direction.
I got pulled to the side by a high school teacher and congratulated because she said that she could hear me. I said, “What are you talking about?” She said, “I could barely hear you at all. You actually project your voice now. I’m just congratulating you, I’m really excited about that.” I was not even self aware of it.
I did not know how to talk. Am I the most eloquent speaker? NO. I say, “Uh, ah, um, er…” all the time still. I’m totally fine with that.
I was completely broke. We were living on loans. Not even paycheck to paycheck.
Everything that you see right here has been sculpted. NOT GIVEN.
I love the quote, “Know thyself,” but ironically, I believe the only way to know thyself is to sculpt thyself.
People tell me things like, “Well, Stephen, of course you can be successful because you have this show and you’ve got these other pieces here and you’ve got automation.”
Yeah… BUT I WASN’T THREE YEARS AGO! You feel me? I’m yelling because I care. Okay?
Passionate Papa Larsen’s coming out. It’s time for real talk with Papa Larsen.
DO I GUARANTEE SUCCESS?
I work with a lot of brand new people who’ve never actually finished pushing through something.Go I guarantee results? HECK NO.
Nor would I ever dare to. It’s not for my benefit, it’s for yours.
I was broke, I couldn’t speak, I got kicked out of college my first semester. Literally. I got mercy graduated from high school. I am the least likely success story.
It wasn’t until I sat in front of the mirror one day and asked myself, “What do I want with my life?”
I had nothing. Getting pretty close to rock bottom. I actually ran from home. These are true stories. This is the upbringing of Steve Larsen, okay?
I killed Stephen and birthed Steve. I had to get rid of a lot of my old self and become something new.
When somebody comes to me and they say something like, “Stephen, what’s the guaranteed ROI?” I know that they’re trying to find a logical reason to excuse themselves from personal growth. I don’t sit for that.
I’m willing to say, “Look. This is a personal growth moment. It’s not up to me. It’s up to you. I can give you the tools but you’ve gotta freaking pick it up and still swing the hammer.” They’ll be like, “I can’t pick up the hammer.” Go do some form workouts. That’s not my fault. I’m not gonna make the hammer any lighter.
We don’t pray for the weights in the gym to get less heavy. We pray to get more strength. Business growth is no different.
For you to sit back and give me the ownership over your success is STUPID.
WHAT’S THE GUARANTEED ROI?
A lot of this comes down to the way MLM is positioned. MLM is often the gateway drug into entrepreneurship. A lot of entrepreneurs were once in MLM. Or still are. Just like myself.
I came in through MLM and I left it for a little bit, learned and then I came back. But I had to go through some personal growth.
There’s no way that I could have done any of this five years ago. I didn’t have the discipline, the drive or the motivation.
When people say, “How do I motivated my team?” YOU HAVE THE WRONG TEAM! You should not recruit everything that has a heartbeat.
This is the reason I have people go through an application process to join my downline. I am looking to see how much ownership they have taken in their life. I don’t care if it means business ownership. What’s their level of responsibility?
I know that this is a very forward response, but I hear this so often it drives me UP THE FREAKING WALL.
Your success is not on my shoulders.
My success is on no one else’s shoulders. It is completely on me. No one owes me anything. I don’t deserve anything. Nothing is due to me. It’s the same for everything else on this planet.
SUCCESS IS A STATE OF MIND
One of my favorite quotes says something to the effect of, “Your level of success in this life is parallel to the number of problems that you’ve solved.” For a problem to be a problem it means it needs to be hard.
So many people are like, “Man, you’re saying I gotta learn how to do this or I need to think a little bit differently than I have in the past?”
I struggle more to do this with adults than I do teenagers. Kids follow train tracks that have been built for them by adults and leaders for a long time. I find that a lot of adults never quite learn how to build their own tracks. They haven’t dealt with ambiguity or challenge.
It has nothing to do with the material. That guy’s having success, and that lady is, and those people are… But this person isn’t. What’s the variable? It’s not the program.
If you’re not having success in your MLM, it’s not because of your MLM.
GETTING REAL INCREASES YOUR CHANCE OF SUCCESS
I had to get real with myself. I talk with myself a lot. I’m not afraid to say it.
I was 35% body fat and I had a double chin. I was working on a triple. 35% body fat. I was 210 pounds. I’m six foot now but I was 5’6″. I was a tubby bubby. I was a fat kid in high school.
There was a moment when I had to sit back and get real with myself. “Stephen… YOU’RE FAT!”
It’s truth. It’s not mean, it’s truth.
“Stephen… YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO LEARN. YOU’RE DUMB.”
That’s not mean, it’s truth.
“Stephen… YOU’RE BROKE.”
“Stephen… YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO TALK.”
You know how I broke that one? I would take my computer, get in front of a mirror and watch guys on stage and mute the volume. And I would physically mimic their actions and their movements. Dance around in complete silence trying to mimic so I could break out of my shy self.
This is not a me, me, me session. I’m just trying to use myself as an example.
I believe in sculpting myself. It’s not know thyself. It’s sculpt thyself. I don’t care who I AM, I care who I’m trying to BECOME.
Only you can truly know where you are and where you are not.
ONLY YOU CAN GUARANTEE SUCCESS FOR YOURSELF
Someone who has gone through something challenging and they’ve learned who they really are… They’re a rock star.
David Goggins has this great thing called The Cookie Jar. He said, “Every time I something hard comes up in my life, I go with my cookie jar. I’ll close my eyes and think, ‘I’ll be alright. What have you done in the past that’s awesome?’”
Open up your cookie jar and look at all the awesome things you’ve done. The great stuff for your personal growth, or business growth. “Look, Stephen, you almost got straight As coming back into college after you learned how to learn. Man, you a bad mama jama.”
Those are things that I look back I’m like, “Man. You a bad mama jama. Woo!”
I get myself a little bit of a pump up to remind myself that I can handle the challenge ahead.
If you’ve never done anything challenging, you have no cookie jar. So when someone ways to me, “Oh, guarantee success for me.” FREAK, NO.
Go do something hard, then come back. Because you need to learn who you really are.
Lots of people ask me why I do what I do. Here’s why…
My favorite moment is when I’m on stage and I can see it in their eyes… Something has just changed in their essence of a human being.
I was speaking at a three day event once. People had paid $15,000 to be there, it was awesome.
Russell Brunson turned to me and asked me what was wrong… and I said, “You know, it’s weird, man. I can stand up and I can see who’s not just getting it, but who’s actually going to do it. Is that weird?”
He laughed and said, “No. That’s funny you’re getting that already.”
IS ANYTHING REALLY GUARANTEED?
When someone asks me, “Can you guarantee success for me? What’s the guaranteed ROI?” NO.
I don’t know you as a human being. I don’t know what you’ve been through.
I’m not gonna hold your hand all the way. I will guide you to the level that you reach out. You come 50%, so will I. But if you’re not coming even 10%, I’m not going 10%.
The programs are there. I’m not hiding anything. It’s all there.
If someone’s not even trying a little bit, and they’re like, “Oh, it’s a scam.” NO. YOUR LIFE IS. This is Papa Larsen’s tough love.
People who’ve never actually done much business-wise are attracted into MLM. Which is great. I’m love helping people who are brand new. I have programs for them to learn how to find success in this industry.
But I don’t recruit people who need motivating. I recruit the people who have innate motivation.
There’s a great quote by Jim Rohn. He says, “We must all suffer one of two things. The pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”
Those are some spicy truth words right there.
THE INTENT TO BECOME
There are three kinds of buyers that I have noticed:
- The person who has intent to learn – They will by a course or product and actually use it.
- Someone with NO intent – They buy something and never do anything with it.
- The person who has the intent to BECOME – It is a special moment. It’s the moment when I’m standing on stage and I see in their eyes that something has changed in them. And they’ve been set up for massive growth. That is my favorite individual to work with.
If you have the intent to become, you have the understanding that this is a journey. You love the process as much as they do the prize.
What I’m asking you is, take a little look inside yourself and say, who am I?
What intent did I join MLM with? Do I have the intent to learn?
The intent to become requires far more honesty and self-discovery. You need to get raw and real with where you are and where you are not. Sometimes that can be uncomfortable.
Are you trying to become who you wanna be?
If you don’t know what you wanna be, it’s the reason you probably feel so much frustration.
It’s hard to get somewhere without knowing where you’re trying to go.
There’s a coin that sits on my desk that reminds me of this all the time. It says, “The obstacle is the way.” on the front and on the back, “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way, becomes the way.”
I just want you to know that I care about you all. I get really passionate and focused about this stuff because my life has changed because of it.
No, I will absolutely not give you a guaranteed ROI or guarantee success for you.
I will guarantee you a sweet, awesome way for you to develop and grow and become someone amazing IF you own it.
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